Complainers, whiners and chronic negative people are liabilities to people that are progressive and positive. The chronic complainers and whiners approach everything with a glass half empty attitude with no aptitude to do anything about the things they complain about.
What they want is for people to join their pity party and agree that the God’s have heaped all the “perceived in some cases” misfortune on them so that they can feel better about themselves.
You and I often feel pressured to listen to complainers because we don’t want to be seen as callous or rude. That’s when our human compassion and sympathetic ear often opens us up to being sucked into a negative emotional spiral.
You can avoid being victim to this parasitic behavior only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. At some point, if you don’t cut them off you are going to be stressed out behind problems that aren’t your own and you have no control over. A great way to set limits is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
An effective method of dealing with these people is to ask complainers how they intend to fix the problem. They will either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.
Remember that no one has the right to make someone else feel responsible for their problems (real or perceived) when they’re making no effort to resolve the problems themselves.